The first of many

I am writing this blog to help me cope with the craziness that is my ex wife Susan and how after almost 10 years of divorce she still uses my kids against me.  I will be posting emails, texts, and various stories about what she has done and what she continues to do.  She has been diagnosed as  borderline personality with separation anxiety.  I have two daughters and two step daughters.  I am remarried to a wonderful girl who depsite all that goes on with Susan still loves me and supports me iin what I try to do.  I love my kids with all of my heart.  They mean everything to me. 

I fought for 50/50 custody of my kids and recieved that last August.  In order to get this I still pay 1100 a month for child support, half of their private school and I pay for their medical benefits.  Susan also signs them up for dance, volleyball, choir, Girl Scouts, and softball.  I have to take them to all of these activites and still get their homework done and dinner made.  I think it is too much for them to do but I don't have a say in it.  The things I do to see my kids more. 

Here is an email that she sent me today after I told her that I would go and get Sophia on Saturday at summer camp.  (Our PP calls for me to get the kids for the month of June and she gets them for July, with each of us getting a weekend during the month for PT). 

Here is my initial email:

Susan,

This is the weekend out the month that I am to get the kids. I know Sophia is at camp and I will go down and get her on Saturday morning. I will make sure that she brings home all of her clothes and anything else that she took down there. I will be by to get Olivia on Friday evening at 6pm.

 

Frank

Pretty cut and dry which is the way I like it.  I don't want to deal with her anymore than I have to.  Well, she can't just comply with something simple like a parenting plan.  She has to muddy the water and create chaos. 

 

Frank-

Both of the girls told me you would not have them in July.

I will see you at camp at 9:30 Saturday morning.

Camp has already called me today and Sophia is very home sick and was discussing with everyone how she had to stay with you in June. She is looking forward to coming home Saturday morning.

I will see you Saturday at camp.

 

 

At this point I should just let it go and head to the police station on Friday and file the police report.  I figure I'll give her one more chance to see what else she will say:

Susan,

I will be by to get Olivia at 6pm on Friday. The Saturday will be on my time, so I think it only fair that I go and get Sophia. You took her down and I can pick her up. That’s what co=parents do

 

 

Here is her reply:

 

Frank-

I appreciate you telling a example of coparents - but you have not coparented since August 1st NOR followed one thing in the parenting plan.

However, coparenting is the comfort of both parents being present and in unison for the children.

I will see you at camp Saturday morning. Sophia is expecting me to be there, and after talking to her camp counselor today she wants mommy to be there for the awards ceremony and I will not let her down.

 

I'll let it go at this point.